Feeling overwhelmed with the holidays? If you’re feeling especially overwhelmed this year, you’re not alone. Ultimately, it’s important to take time to care for yourself. The holidays are full of invitations to connect with loved ones and participate in various activities – but after a while, even the funnest events can feel more exhausting than entertaining.
Don’t be afraid to set boundaries for yourself, and only commit to the things that you truly want to be a part of. For example, maybe you don’t have the capacity to participate in your friend group’s gift exchange this year – be honest about your situation and take care of yourself and your needs. Or perhaps you’ve been invited to a holiday party, but aren’t comfortable socializing in a big group. It’s okay to say no and prioritize your health and well-being.
Need ideas on polite ways to say “no”? Here are some thoughts:
- Keep it vague but effective: e.g., “Thanks for asking, but that isn’t going to work out for me this year.”; “It’s not personal; I’m just not going to any holiday parties this year.”
- Keep trying: e.g., “None of those dates work for me, but I would love to see you. What are some other times you’re available?”
- Gratitude: e.g., “Thank you so much for thinking of me! I’m sorry I can’t participate.”
- Just say no: e.g., “Thanks, but I’ll have to pass on that this year.”
- Setting boundaries: e.g., “Let me tell you what I can do…” – then limit the commitment to what you will be comfortable with; “I’m maxed out.”
Ultimately, caring for your mental and physical health during the holidays comes down to making time for self-care and prioritizing your well-being.
Sources
1. https://www.verywellmind.com/understanding-and-managing-holiday-stress-314523
2. https://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/features/beating-holiday-stress
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